Seeing Red

December 3, 2008 - One Response

The first Ladies know the Power of Red

The first Ladies know the Power of Red

The Original Red Power Dress

The Original Red Power Dress

Red is a powerful color. It is a color that gets your attention. It is associated with seduction, romance, and now a study from the University of Rochester shows men find women wearing red more attractive.




The study on men measured the affects of color in assessing a woman’s attractiveness, and red won. An interesting point from the study says that the men “were unaware that the color red turns them on”.


Don’t ask me why research and time was allotted to this study. I am just commenting on the results because red is my favorite color.


Pictures of the US Senate and Congress show many women members wearing red suits. Do they get along better with their male counterparts when dressed in Red? I thought it was just a powerful color, not easily overlooked before I read this study. If men find women wearing red more attractive a conclusion can be made that they will cooperate and collaborate more with their female counterparts.


Case in point, when President Elect Obama and Mrs. Obama met at the White House with President Bush and Mrs. Bush, both wives were in red dresses. Conclusions can be made that if you are a woman and need to get along with men, wear red. Going to a party and don’t know many people, wear red. A social or business meeting with not your favorite people, wear red. Mrs. Bush, Mrs. Obama, and Mrs. Claus know to wear red!

Tie One On for The Giving Season

November 18, 2008 - Leave a Response

National Tie One on Day, an apron of course, is November 26, 2008. EllynAnne Geisel of Apron Memories, www.apronmemories.comsmoochie the apron, started this giving day tradition the day before Thanksgiving three years ago. She encourages embracing a “giving opportunity that has nothing to do with shopping or even getting into a car, but everything to do with our recognition of gratefulness  and our ability to give to someone in need of spiritual or physical sustenance.”

EllynAnne goes on to say “Women clad in aprons have traditionally prepared the Thanksgiving meal and it is with in our historical linkage to share our bounty”


 EllynAnne has become the patron saint of the Apron.

She writes about aprons,, exhibits aprons, and sews and sells aprons on her web site. Her aprons have become famous with the Desperate Housewives character Bree wearing one, to the recent article in Vogue magazine.


When I came across the Apron Memories site I was infatuated. My very first sewing project was an apron, and I have loved them and sewing ever since. After I read about EllynAnne’s ‘Tie One On Day’, I knew I had to get the word out. Join me and other apron wearing women spreading thanks the day before Thanksgiving.

On Line Community Goes Live

November 12, 2008 - One Response

_blogging-momentmg_4110     Ever wonder what bloggers really look like from your favorite social net work sites? I am not talking about the posed picture they have next to their name, if that truly is their name, but a picture of what they look like when they are blogging. Many bloggers hit their favorite sites early in the morning or late at night, and don’t use their web cam for a reason!


     One of my favorite social networking sites is Women Etcetera,

This site is geared for the woman over 50. It is a voice with topics on health, business, ‘Today in Herstory’, articles and of course blogs. This on line community is a wonderful group of women “embracing transitions and change”. They use their real names and write from their hearts. They are also brave enough to have a picture of themselves blogging.


     Like other online communities, Women Etcetera members want to meet each other in the flesh. They want to meet the other women that they now call friends. The first Women Etcetera conference was recently held in Pittsburgh, PA. It was so successful that the second full day conference will be November 15, 2008 in Raleigh, North Carolina.

If you can’t make it, check out the web site and join this wonderful virtual community.



Hot Flash Voting

November 5, 2008 - Leave a Response

A friend of mine in another state told me she votes by mail because while in the voting booth, she gets a wee bit anxious and her anxiety triggers hot flashes.


Here in the state of Oregon, all voting is done by mail. Don’t want to mail your ballot, drop off boxes are located at libraries.  In tallying up the ballots, many of the workers wear gloves because some of the ballots are covered with food. Some of the ballots are hard to read because of coffee stains. The ballots come out 2 weeks before the election and people are at their leisure casting their vote. This is code for they may be eating at the same time.


My friend thinks Oregon is on to some thing great with their vote by mail. I personally miss the excitement of voting in person. I would suffer a day full of hot flashes to go to a voting booth. I always wanted to be one of those ladies outside the voting booth who takes your ballot. They always looked like they were having fun, eating cookies and coffee and talking with each other. They would scornfully look up the precinct when people didn’t know where to vote. I was asked once with perfect scorn “you don’t know what precinct you are in?”  Oh how I wanted that job!


Unless I move to another State or Oregon goes back to voting in person, my life career goal is gone, obsolete. The best I can do is stand in front of a drop off box sipping coffee eating cookies and hope someone will ask me the location of the box so I can make some scornful reply! 

Passionately Pink Pumpkins for The Cure

October 30, 2008 - Leave a Response

All Pinky

All Pinky

Komen has a program for the month of October, breast cancer awareness month, for companies to join in fund raising by wearing Pink. The goal is to set a date and anyone who wants to wear the Pink in support for the Cure donates at least $5.00.


We took this fund raising challenge on a different bent with Passionately Pink Pumpkins for the Cure. We had so many table top pumpkins from our garden that we decided to decorate them with pink boa feathers and sell them as Passionately Pink Pumpkins for the Cure. Of course we wore pink in more of a Halloween/costume theme and had pink lemonade and pink cupcakes, because what is a pink fund raiser with-out pink cake?


The response was great and we raised $150.00 from our afternoon efforts. Next year we are planning for bigger response, more lead time and more cupcakes. No guarantee that the garden will produce an abundance of pumpkins again, but we can adapt with Passionately Pink Potatoes for the Cure, or even Passionately Pink Parsley for the Cure. We have a year to passionately plan.


My lovely dress was bought at the local Goodwill for $5.95. This was hand sewn and must have been a bride’s maid dress. The puffy sleeves and the bow in the back are the tell tale signs. A friend was looking for a princess dress just like mine to wear at the request of her 2 little boys for Halloween.  I am delighted to loan it to her for the evening because I know how difficult it is to find a passionately pink taffeta dress when you need one!

Menopause Stardom

October 22, 2008 - One Response

Did you ever want to be in the movies? Who hasn’t had a bit of a fantasy to see themselves on the big screen, gorgeous backgrounds, exotic locations, costumes and make-up that make you look like a real live movie star?  Yes fantasies are great.


 Reality is more like in the movie Tootsie when they scream “Not too close” for the camera work in shooting Dustin Hoffman as Tootsie. This week I was able to participate in some of the fun of movie making. Hot Flash Havoc,, is the name of the film being made that I am privileged to be a part of. Since it is in documentary style, I am playing myself, a middle age menopausal woman. My naturopathic physician friend Kelly Jennings,, is also interviewed and filmed. Kelly treats effectively, and patiently many women with menopause and breast cancer symptoms. She is also young, smart and gorgeous! So my close up is Kelly giving me an acupuncture treatment. Yes indeed, I am the woman in repose with acupuncture needles all over her face, head and neck!


I was also interviewed about my story, the breast cancer/menopause/entrepreneur connection. This film has a fantastic concept; educate and entertain about the condition called Menopause. The movie is still in production and I will blog about it again, and again as the release date becomes closer and my close up for stardom nears.

Crying At Work

October 15, 2008 - One Response


The question is when is it acceptable to cry in the work place?


A friend of mine has told me she is just about menopausal and she is having emotional surges like her teenagers. She is crying more frequently, and being very short tempered. While her teenagers are quick to get over their outbursts, she still reels from her own for hours. The crying is the most troublesome and hardest to hide. How many times, does my friend tell me, can she say it’s just allergies?

I have been at meetings when the subject of death is addressed when one in our group has lost a husband, wife or child to disease or suicide. A collective tearing up in these circumstances is totally acceptable. I have noticed however, that many of the men remained stoic. Crying makes people feel uncomfortable, especially in my experience, men people.


I have seen co-workers make harsh comments to one another in meetings. Sometimes the recipient of the unkind words is stunned into silence, like a slap. Sometimes another co-worker comes to the defense and it turns into a verbal brawl. I have seen pounding on tables, throwing back chairs, standing up and shouting, throwing papers, ripping charts off walls, and getting red in the face, but I have never seen a man reduced to tears. I am not saying this is good or bad, it is just an interesting observation from my 30 years in the drenches of corporate America.


I used to work with a woman who cried frequently at meetings. It was a tough company, we were in sales, and you were expected to exceed your sales goals to keep your job. Men were the bosses and morale was not a consideration. Over the ten years I knew this woman, she cried at meetings when she was criticized, or when she was praised. She also cried at the Christmas party, and when she had too much to drink. In short she was a crier. In the ten years we worked together she maintained her job but she was not advanced, viewed as not able to handle pressure, and not being able to negotiate with difficult people. I heard others throw around the word ‘Drama Queen’ when referring to her. I know many did not want to work with her because she was disruptive with her crying. Crying elicits a need to comfort for many people. It is difficult to concentrate on work if you are busy comforting the crying person.  It is also difficult to ignore a crying person and stay on task. Looking back, I think she may have been PMS, post pregnancy, or peri-menopausal. Her hormones may have been running amok, or it was just part of her personality.


I think we have all had moments when we tear up in frustration or hurt feelings.

Not one condition or reason can be attributed to why a woman cries at work more than a man. I think a host of reasons trigger crying, menopause or hormone changes may just be some of the mix.


The conclusion I have reached is that it doesn’t do any one any good including the crier to cry at work. Go to the rest room, or walk outside your building, go to your car or someplace alone. Excuse yourself. Crying appears to be in the same genre as bawdy jokes. They can make some people feel uncomfortable, and give an air of an unprofessional demeanor. Don’t let your career be jeopardized by a few tears. No crying at Work!

What is your opinion?




The Thanksgiving Lobster

November 17, 2014 - Leave a Response


Thanksgiving was one of my favorite holidays growing up. It was a fun secular event and I ate lobster. What’s not to like?

My father’s family owned a Jewish Kosher deli in Massachusetts. It was started by my Grandfather and passed down to my Dad and his 2 brothers. On Thanksgiving Day the ‘store’ as we called the restaurant, was busy with take out orders, including turkey dinners. The restaurant would finally close around 4 or 5 PM.

All the Weintraubs would gather at a restaurant (not ours) around 6 PM for Thanksgiving dinner. We had a private room to accommodate the 20+ of us. We ordered off the special holiday menu and only my Grandmother would order turkey dinner. The rest of us would order lobster, or duck or when the boys were adolescents, rump roast because saying ‘rump’ to a waitress put them into giggle fits.

After dinner we watched old home movies and laughed over the sight of our young parents. We would shout out the names of older relatives as they passed the screen. We enjoy some of the same movies every year.

At the end of the evening my Grandmother would pass out her Chanukah gift to us. It was always a generous check. The next week she would leave for Florida missing Chanukah. It was a perfect ending to a fun holiday celebration giving me a lifetime of great memories that I am very thankful to conjure up this time of year.

Do you have a favorite Thanksgiving memory or food you must eat on the Holiday?

Change in Season, Same Hot Flashes/Night Sweats

November 9, 2014 - Leave a Response

Fall Colors

I love fall. The brisk air, the foliage, the anticipation of Holidays.

With the change in weather is the change in wardrobe. Out come coats and sweaters, or do they?

I detected a whine in the voice of my husband the other morning when he said, “Can we turn on some heat please?” Heat? Really is it time to turn the heat on? I noticed he was wearing fleece. When did he stop wearing shorts?

Certainly when the heat is turned on and the rains have started, I need to get out my winter wardrobe. I used to have 2 sets of clothing, one for summer and one for winter. Since menopause, I notice I have one set of clothing with some sandals or a few sweaters.

One set of clothes for all seasons? I could be living in Hawaii! I don’t! Damn you menopause!!

With the change of the seasons and the heat is turned on and it is cool outside then warms up or it rains and then stops, it is hard for anyone to regulate their body temperature. For the menopausal, the hot flashes and night sweats are just having a hey day and night!

Is it hot in here? I know it isn’t just me! Do you have one all weather wardrobe?

My Skin May Have A Glow???

November 2, 2014 - 2 Responses

This is a sponsored post. I was given L’Oreal Skin Care but the opinions are all mine.

 Loreal Skin Care

When I was contacted to try out L’Oreal Age Perfect, Glow Renewal skin products I was thrilled. Not only was I on the lookout for some new moisturizer, I was desperate to find something that would feel good and not aggravate my skin. Formulated for older skin is also a plus!

It has only been a little more than 2 weeks since the trio arrived but already I am in love with the products and here are my reasons:

They have a light smell.

My husband’s eyes aren’t watering from the scent at night and it is not overpowering my fragrance during the day.

The facial oil has an eye drop application.

I love this application and wish more products used this method of distribution. You can easily regulate how much you need without waste or fuss.

The Day lotion has a “broad spectrum SPF 30 sunscreen”.

My dermatologist and my primary care physician have told me to use a sunscreen everyday. This day lotion makes it easy to fulfill this need without depending on my makeup containing sunscreen.

The Hydra-nutrition cream makes my skin feel good.

The cream is not heavy but not too light. It goes on easily. Together with the oil it makes my skin feel very soft.

Am I glowing? The products are called “Age Perfect Glow Renewal”. I might be. I have dull skin, and I may have noticed a hint of a glow. I do know the products have not aggravated my skin at all. That has happened with other products. I actually got headaches from a moisturizer but certainly not with this L’Oreal trio. In another month I will write a 6-week evaluation and hope then I can confirm a glow!

Based on my use I would recommend these products to anyone looking for a new skin care moisturizing line. Have you tried L’Oreal Age Perfect Glow Renewal?

What Does the World Series and Breast Cancer Have in Common?

October 27, 2014 - Leave a Response

It’s all about statistics and hope.

As the last week of breast cancer awareness month and the World Series end I thought I would mention some similarities. Shocking to many and even to me that I am using a sports analogy but here it goes!

Not everyone gets breast cancer but we can all support those who do.

Not every baseball player makes it to the World Series but they can become fans.

Breast cancer treatment protocols are based on the best statistical data for a positive outcome.

World Series teams use their statistical rankings to make line up and position placements for the best outcome.

The breast cancer patient can follow her doctor’s recommendations precisely and still get a reoccurrence.

The best team record doesn’t necessarily mean they will end up in the World Series.

It only takes one cell to go rogue to become cancer.

It only takes one swing of the bat to win the series or loose it.

The tumor markers look bad, the treatments are debilitating but the breast cancer patient still has hope that the next treatment, the next blood work will show improvement.

The baseball team is behind in the series and a star player or pitcher is hurt but still they hold hope the next game they will win.

A new clinical trail, a new drug, a new chemo cocktail is showing a statistical significance in life span for the breast cancer patient. She goes for it.

A player is suddenly hot at the bat or at the mound nullifying his season’s statistics. He is put into play.

We support our teams because they display hope on every swing of the bat and every pitch and caught ball. We support our sisters, mothers, and friends with every treatment and diagnosis for the same hope of another day to play!

Strange Encounters

October 20, 2014 - 2 Responses

The moon was full. That has to be a factor in all this. The day started with an errand to Costco.

At Costco I could not find everything I was looking for, unbelievable but true! So I only picked up the 1 item I needed. As I am waiting in line at the check out with my 1 item, 2 women about my age behind me start dissing me.

“Who goes to Costco and buys only 1 thing?”

“I never would come into Costco for just one item!”

“How can you only find 1 thing to buy at Costco?”

I turned around and said“ But aren’t you glad you are behind me?”

This does not shut them up. I think my delivery was off, or they were itching for a fight.

As I am walking to my car with my one item a car stops in front of me and the woman about my age turns down her window. I thought she was going to ask directions.

Woman, ”Do you like chips?”

Me. “Who doesn’t?”

Woman, “Do you like dip with your chips?”

Me, “But of course.”

Now here I am thinking she is going to pitch me from inside her car Pampered Chef or some multi level company. I mean why else are we 2 strangers discussing chips and dip in the Costco parking lot with her car idling? Truth be told, I love a good sales pitch and I never shy away from one, so I was already giving this woman kudos for her boldness in stopping and approaching me.

Woman, “Do you like taco seasoning?”

Me, “Yes, I do.”

Woman, “Do you use packaged taco seasoning?”

Me, “No I make my own”.

Here it is, I think the pitch is coming.

Woman, “I use one package of taco seasoning and 1 pint of sour cream. I mix it together and let it sit in the refrigerator for 1 hour and it is delicious.”

Me, “OK.”

Woman, “Only 1 pint of sour cream.”

Me, “OK. Thanks. Got it.”

Woman, “Bye.”

She drove off. I think she just wanted to share a recipe.

I can easily be on the phone with a friend for an hour. I will gab with my sister daily for 20 minutes without giving it a second thought. But what if you have retired or are an empty nester and you don’t have many people to have a good chat? Do you stir up conversation/controversy in the check out line or do you stop a stranger to share a good recipe?

The Sisterhood of Breast Cancer

October 15, 2014 - Leave a Response

There exists a sisterhood of women who have survived breast cancer. Those of us in this group know many members who have not survived. Recently I was giving a breast cancer awareness talk at a community college. One youngish woman asked in all sincerity, “But women don’t really die any longer from breast cancer so shouldn’t all this money and education be spent on more life threatening diseases?”

Luckily I was not the only person giving the presentation and my partner found her words faster to reply. This was a question in my 8 years of breast cancer outreach I never before had heard.

My speaking partner is a 32-year breast cancer survivor. She was diagnosed at age 30 after giving birth to her second child. 32 years ago breast cancer treatments were just short of barbaric and she told her story and how research and treatments have come a long way from slash, cut, and poison but yet still some women die. Actually younger women have a higher mortality rate, however breast cancer is not necessarily a death sentence. Some women with metastasized breast cancer can live 5-15 years. But not all breast cancers are alike.

I told the story of a friend of mine who was diagnosed 5 years after my diagnosis. Her cancer stage was actually better than mine but it was a different kind of cancer. She did everything according to protocol set by her oncologists. After her 5-year mark it was discovered her cancer had metastasized and with-in 5 months she was dead.

In the last 5 years I have lost 3 friends to breast cancer. 2 more have been diagnosed with the disease, and 2 more have had a reoccurrence. It is a sisterhood that binds us together, one we never wanted to join. The fatality rate has been reduced through educational and social outreach, and medical advances resulting in early detection but it is still a life threatening disease with no cure!

Do you know some one in the sisterhood?

Breast Cancer Myths Debunked

October 6, 2014 - One Response

I picked 10 myths about breast cancer. They always show up and make the news but they are just myths.

1. Bras cause breast cancer.

There actually was a recent study showing that this myth is really not sustainable. Really does anyone sincerely think that you get breast cancer from wearing a bra?

2. Breast Cancer is genetic.

Less than 10% of all breast cancers are genetic.

3. Deodorants and antiperspirants cause breast cancer.

Nope there really is not a link.

4. An injury to the chest causes breast cancer.

No one wants a chest injury but it won’t cause breast cancer.

5. Small-breasted women are less likely to get breast cancer.

If only it was true.

6. Large breasted women are more likely to get breast cancer.

Size really does not mater in breast cancer.

7. The radiation in a mammogram can cause breast cancer.

No, the radiation is just a tiny amount.

8. If your mammogram is clean you are 100% breast cancer free.

Know your body. Sometimes a mammogram will not pick up everything.

9. Having an abortion raises your risk for breast cancer.


10. Breast Cancer is preventable.

I wish that was true.

There are many crazy theories and myths about breast cancer. These 10 are ones I hear all the time. Breast cancer, because there is no cure, is scary and fear drives crazy myths.

Did I debunk any myths for you?

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month

September 29, 2014 - Leave a Response

Here are 5 things you should know or do for the month of October:

One, Get a mammogram.
If you already had one this year, be sure to have next year’s scheduled.
Can’t afford a mammogram? Not an excuse. Between health care reforms, or various agencies, it is affordable. What you cannot afford is to get breast cancer.

If you think a mammogram hurts or you are too busy to have one this year, I can tell you first hand cancer hurts and you can’t believe how busy you will be if you get breast cancer. If you are afraid because what if you do have breast cancer, let me tell you sticking your head in the sand is not a cure for breast cancer!


Two, Make sure all your sisters and friends, get a mammogram.
Go with them or schedule it for them.
Don’t listen to news stories that say you don’t need one every year. If you are under 80 and over 40, get a yearly screening. If you or a loved one has a Mother who had breast cancer you need to be screened 10 years before they were diagnosed.


Three, Know that less than 10 % of all breast cancers are genetic.

If you think breast cancer cannot happen to you because there is no breast cancer in your family, you are WRONG. The two

leading causes of breast cancer are: Being a woman and too many birthdays.

Breast Cancer pinky

Four, If you think you are too Fit and too Healthy to get breast cancer, think again!
Breast cancer happens. All it takes is one cell to go rogue. Breast cancer is not a disease that is caught or lifestyle influenced.


Five, Know there is no cure for breast cancer.
I wish there was a cure. Those of us who have had the disease, we are only in remission. My company, Haralee.Com Sleepwear donates a portion of every sale to breast cancer research. During the month of October we double our contributions.

Haralee Breast Cancer ShowDid you learn a fact? Have you had your mammogram?

My Company’s 10 Year Anniversary!

September 22, 2014 - Leave a Response

It seems unbelievable that our company, Haralee.Com Sleepwear has been in business for 10 years but it is true!

It took me 18 months to research, source and start the company. We launched at the Susan G Komen for the Cure Health Fair in 2004 on September 17th!

Here is our original photo group. 3 of these women are cancer survivors; all have been touched first hand with cancer. Of the 7 styles we made then we still make 6 although in different fabrics and colors.

Original Haralee.Com

Our first manufacturer was the Washington state women’s correctional penitentiary. This group of women sewed clothing for big name companies and I was happy to do business with them too. Never having been in a maximum-security prison it was an eye opening experience. This was way before Orange is the New Black. Doing business with in this facility was also a very different kind of business relationship. I of course had to be checked out more than just my financials. Fabric had to be searched, appointments could not easily be changed and rush orders were never considered.

It was an earned privilege for the women who worked in the sewing plant. They could earn money, use their brain, skills and get a glimpse of the outside world. Most of the women were murderers. They killed their abusive husbands, boyfriends or pimps. Most of the women were mothers. The woman who cut out all my fabric was a bank robber. She was really good with numbers and I had very little waste. I was able to talk with the women, get their input on sewing and pattern compatibility and after my first production run was ready they gave me a fashion show. As far as I was concerned it was a win-win partnership. It only lasted 2 years for our company before the state of Washington shut down the sewing plant.

We went through 3 other manufactures before we found our current excellent manufacturing company. We are using now our 5th photographer for our model shoots. We had 2 other pattern makers before we found our current one. We really had challenges in buying fabric and now we think we have found the perfect source. We’ve had 3 different looks to the web site in our 10 years. We remained vigilant to our values to keep the company as local as possible, and made in the USA. Shipping has remained true to be efficient and fast and now even free! Our models have always been friends, their daughters, and sisters who are also cancer survivors or touched first hand by the disease.

Group 2014 Reading2

It doesn’t seem possible that 10 years has passed! This summer I was approached to sell the company. I said no. Not never, just not now. We are only 10 years old!

 Shelby's Birthday Cake

On The Verge

September 16, 2014 - Leave a Response

I was speaking with my sister recently after she had a very exasperating experience. She stated she was on the verge….
Well she was so exasperated that fill in the blank was easy.

I realized we are all often on the verge of something good or bad.
Here is a list that may appear in your conversation:

On the verge of something big
On the verge of losing it
On the verge of a nervous breakdown
On the verge of falling asleep
On the verge of hitting it big
On the verge of discovering a breakthrough
On the verge of hysteria
On the verge of enlightenment
On the verge of a big break
On the verge of extinction
On the verge of exhaustion
On the verge of recovery
On the verge of making it
On the verge of acceptance
On the verge of going Postal

Being on the verge can be very dramatic. It can be a full of exasperation or full of hope. It might take someone a lifetime to be on the verge of some attribute or a split second. Some of us may never act on what we are on the verge of or be the recipient of what is just out of reach.

What are you on the verge?


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